Monday, January 2, 2006


There is no duty more sacred than being a father. This is why God uses that image so often of himself. So much depends on us. The kind of men our sons become depends on us. There is nothing more sacred.

We stand so tall in their eyes. We are so strong, to hurl them in the air and catch them so lightly. How we all laugh with delight, they secure in our arms, we, filled with love and pride. This is my son, we think, my precious little boy, and we are grateful. It’s never so much about what they will do when they are grown, as who they will be – will they be honorable? -- compassionate? But most, it’s about that moment, of laughter and delight. And life is good.

But we are only men. And just as they grow into teenagers and disappoint our expectations – failing as they must as they discover their character – so do we also fail. If we were impatient, if we were unfair – how can it be otherwise. Being only men, we are more than just fathers. We are men. We fail in our own lives, in our own hearts and actions. We are subject to the same temptations as our sons are. We fall into sin as easily.

There is no deceit in our discretion. There is no hypocrisy in our secrecy. We would not be seen as weak, because we value our position as fathers. No, it is not honest. But no one could stand up under the burden of another man’s sin. We are comfortable only with our own. Our silence, as fathers, is a mercy.

And when we are seen for what we are – small, and weak, and deeply flawed – we must depend on the character we have helped instill within our sons. We need their patience, we need their mercy, as they have needed ours. And we always hope that they are better men than we are.



CrowMagnum said...

Why do the religious speak of God as if they understand him. They quote God's word as if their human understanding does it justice. It seems to me that God is beyond human understanding. The experience of God is a holistic one. The "word of God" can only then be a form of poetry leading us to experience reality as it is.

paul asjes said...

But herein is the Bible itself greatly wronged. It nowhere lays claim to be regarded as The Word, The Way, The Truth. The Bible leads us to Jesus, the inexhaustible, the ever unfolding Revelation of God. It is Christ "in whom are did all the treasures of wisdom and knowledge," not the Bible, save as leading to him.
-George MacDonald

Jack H said...

Well, Crowmagnum ... may I call you Cro? -- since you ask, let me explain. And by the way, thank you for the opportunity -- explaining, you see, is what I do best. You must have noticed that, having diligently studied my various postings. ... What's that, Cro? You say you HAVEN'T carefully studied my blog? But...but then how is it you speak with such authority? Oh, I see. You're just assuming. Well, that certainly is a human trait (you are, um, human, right?), and one for which I myself would never fault you. But I digress. As I was saying, I, for my part, certainly cannot speak for “the religious.” But my opinion regarding “the religious” is that they speak of God as if they understand him, and quote God’s word as if their human understanding does it justice.

This would be because they are religious, rather than enlightened. Were they enlightened, they would understand that God is beyond human understanding, and that the experience of God is a holistic one. You see, I feel safe in making the blanket statement that the only possible explanation of what is called the “world of God” is that it is merely a form of poetry, the function of which is to lead us to the subjective experiencing of reality as it is.

If you have any other questions, please feel welcome, honesty, to ask.



Jack H said...

Wow, dude ... synchronicity. Heavy.


Jack H said...

Oh, and welcome, young P. Re the Bible, Paul says that "all scripture is God-breathed." (2Tim 3:16) Its authors, various prophets, "were moved by the HS." (2P 1:21) Since it claims to be of divine inspiration (Mt 22:43) and infallible (Jn 10:35, 17:17), we might have to agree that it isn't a modest document.

We are, you and I, in agreement about Jesus. There is the finger, and there is what the finger points at.



Miroslav said...

Nice piece here Jack H. I like it. Just discovering the joys of fatherhood myself with two litte critters running around the house.

Jack H said...

Holy Moley ... I'm being overwhelmed!

But thanks. And enjoy. Seven is a magic age. Wait, and savor it.